Iām new to toys in the bedroom and penetrative play. My past experiences with it were mediocre at best. It took me a couple times to get the hang of it, but boy, has Tom the Realistic Dildo been a fun ride now that I have figured out how to get my āfunā out of him! If youāre new to it like me, just go slowly, take time to get relaxed, play with yourself a lot to get excited and use lots of lube. Let go of any expectations and find out what feels good. Once you get the hang of it, youāll be āfinishingā a lot and will be looking forward to āalone timeā. This is slightly smaller than the other dildos I ordered later, so itās more beginner friendly and less intimidating, which is good for someone like me who is new to this sort of play. I would recommend this dildo to someone new to penetrative play. If youāre more advanced, this is still a great warm up for bigger toys.